This year, I'm going to be focusing on one blogging related aspect each week to help me really develop my blog. By develop and grow (in the title), I'm referring to quality (content, photos, interaction), not quantity (followers, statistics).
Week Three: Embracing the Title
I have so many blog friends who constantly comment about what a confident blogger I am. Many of you have sent me emails asking how I've been able to approach companies and get my blog out there. I want to set the record straight by saying that it did not come easily. I was a bit unsure about this little space of mine. I liked it. I had a feeling that most you liked it too. But I was very unsure about how it would be received generally.
Like all my other written work, I take a lot of pride in my blog. I want to produce content that I can be proud of. Once I focused more on this and was determined not to be swayed by all the link ups and giveaways that everyone else seemed to be partaking in, I found that I was producing material that I was really happy with. And the material that I produce is constantly extended on and developed and furthered into bigger and better things - by you, my dear friends. I see this in the comments you leave, the discussion it creates, the way you take an idea I present here and create something bigger and better...It was at this point, when these things started to happen, that I became really happy to say "I'm a blogger". It is definitely one of my most favorite titles.
I know there are a few of us who are shy about our blogs. Some of our family members and friends have no idea about this little life we have going on behind the scenes. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. My immediate family know about my blog, so do some extended family members, my friends know. I didn't make a grand announcement yet I've never denied it. If I'm taking photos, I'll ask if can put them on the blog. Because I'm constantly taking photos, I often look sheepishly at everyone and say "you know, for the blog". I feel comfortable that if anyone in my family, from my grandparents to my little cousins read this blog, I could still hold my head high and be proud of what I have in it. And stand by it.
Now. Now I'm so proud to say "I'm Vanisha, I'm a Canberra based blogger" - in appropriate situations, of course! It no longer scares me to scribble a quick message on the the back of my blog business cards to thank the service staff for a lovely meal at a restaurant and leave it with the bill. Often the manager will come up and we'll have a chat. It's such a small gesture but often leads to many wonderful friendships and partnerships. And at the least, nothing happens. They read it, they throw it away...I'm not at a loss.
I take having a blog seriously. Seriously in that, I'm going to have fun and work at it. I'm not going to do it if I'm going to be selective about who I tell and who I don't. I'm not going to let myself feel shy, silly, stupid or small because I blog. I'm doing a PhD and sometimes it probably is a bit weird that I have a blog that's more travel and lifestyle themed but it's merely an extension of me. It doesn't define me entirely, like my doctoral degree doesn't define me entirely either. So I'm going to be as proud to say that I have a blog and that I'm a blogger as I am to say that I'm doing a PhD, that I'm teaching or that I'm married.
Having the mindset that I am a blogger means that I pay attention to what I do here. It means I think through the link ups that I might take part in. It means I think about the companies I work with. That I think about the blogs that I partner with. Embracing the fact that I am a blogger, a 'real' blogger, means that I'm purposeful in what I do here on my blog. This purposefulness means that I try to keep my content meaningful and genuine and that I try to keep my interaction with everyone the meaningful and genuine too. It might not result in greater followers because I refuse to do the whole "follow me, and I'll follow you" or leave a comment for a comment, very tit for tat behavior. Instead, I have found that what I've been doing has led to greater interaction. More communication. A greater sense of community. And that for me, is growth.
So even though I do it a fair bit already, I'm going to work on being even more confident in handing out my blog business card and saying, "hi I'm Vanisha and I'm a blogger..." I'm going to work on embracing my blogger title a little more...
Are you happy to tell people you're a blogger?
Is it easier to tell strangers you blog compared to telling people you know?
What brave thing will you challenge yourself to do for your blog this week?


29 comments:
For nearly three years I didn't tell any of my friends about my blog and then they slowly started finding out through different ways and you kno what? They all love it. I wish I hadn't been so shy about it or worried about what they think. I am alot more confident about my little space now and I think that has also come from putting alot more time and effort into producing quality content.
hello dear… happy new year! I was navegating and I saw your blog, you have a great blog and style, please come visit my blog and if you like it let me know if you want us to follow each other ok!
Kisses from Guatemala
www.petitgraphie.blogspot.com
Nobody knows about mine! Apart from my mum and my grandma a haha! x
i actually feel very comfortable telling people about my blog, but i also don't write about personal things usually. i kind of see it as "advertising" for my design work, so i link it to every social media i have, haha.
At first like you I was a little shy about telling people I have a blog especially when people say "whats a blog?!" but now a few years on Im more confident about it. My family and friends do know about it, but I dont think they read it. I know my boyfriend doesnt even though hes in a lot of the renovating posts, as he says he does all the work and I blog about it! I like having the blog as my creative space I feel lost and frustrated when I cant type up my thoughts or share a project - its such a rewarding space. I like your idea of leaving blog business cards I might look into doing that myself :)
what inspiring words, vanisha!
i want to be where you are in terms of taking my blog more seriously and being confident about it! i've been trying to do things lately that really help my readers in whatever way i can. of course there's the approach that this is "your blog" and ultimately, you can write whatever you want, but i think there is definitely an approach that makes your blog a space for your readers.
this post made me smile. thanks for sharing :)
Hi Vanisha! I am still really enjoying this series of posts you're doing on blogging.
I do think it's easier to tell strangers that I'm a blogger than friends/family. I think just because none of my friends/family blog, so it's another world that they may not understand. That said, those that I've told have been very supportive. This week, I'm going to branch out and do more outfit posts on the blog. I've started doing it this year, at my husband's suggestion... but I've only done two so far. I'm still really getting used to it so it's a stretch.
Great post :)
Initially, I wasn't a 100% about telling people openly that I am a blogger. A lot has changed in a year. My entire family knows, they do question my intentions to make it into a full time profession but that doesn't phase me anymore. Many friends are in awe and I am often found giving 5 min catch up sessions on how it all works, others embrace me with all my blogginess (constant photo snapping et al) and yet others want to learn how they can have a blog too!
As my blog grows, I become increasingly confident about what I do. I find myself mentioning to people/businesses that I run a blog and would love to collaborate, the response is amazingly positive. You know what they say, you don't get what you don't ask for!
Happy Embtacing The Title xxx
*Embracing I mean!
I am totally a shy behind-the-scenes blogger. I need focus, for sure. Beyond that... I keep doing it because my parents and grandparents enjoy it. So, at this point, it is for them. So I don't really spread the word. I want to. but I am too timid.
Ok I think you do a killer job with communication and with community building. I think it stems from your academic ventures with children. You are very nurturing. I am sorta ok with telling people I am a blogger. I really just say I have a blog but I do not call myself a blogger really. Maybe with the new direction I am trying to go in (a very honest way) will aid me in nurturing a community and in coming to being as proud as you are in the title blogger. I mean I enjoy it and I suppose I am a blogger but I'm not surrounded by many other bloggers so I have no ideas to bounce off anyone or meet up with. I am trying to put together a meet up with a gal pal of mine to become inspired in person rather then just online. I am trying to mold blogging and academia both into my world while growing within both at the same time. It is hard work but well worth it in so many various ways. I maybe emailing you over this soon.
Chao
Poppie
http://thepoppie.com
Vanisha, I love the idea of leaving a note with your blog biz card at restaurants, I'm sure it paves the way to partnerships. My friends know I have a blog but I don't often talk about it. It really is like I have a separate life behind the scenes!
Hey Vanisha. I have to agree with you, I am a big fan of letting your fan base growing organically. It really bugs me getting messages to do the "follow me, I follow you" through networks like IFB. Another thing people do is buy followers and/or likes for their social networks, others do the same "follow me" thing too. Harsh to say, but unless you get a mention through print or media, I don't think there is a way to become an overnight blogger sensation. You just have to do it for the love of it!
I think for me it's actually harder to tell strangers mainly because it feels like a personal blog, but I am slowly warming up to it. On the other hand, pretty everyone in my life that I am close to knows I blog
xo Stephanie
That's a great idea- a business card. I've been meaning to get one. I truly believe in quality over quantity as well. I am happy with the community that grew from my blog and the bloggers whose blogs I often read and I am in touch with, such as yourself who I learn a lot from. My family and friends know that I have a blog shockingly even my previous bosses and colleagues. I did try mentioning being a travel blogger once as a signature in an email while booking a hotel reservation. The hotel manager was really sweet with everyone and I had a nice interaction with her during our stay that ended with a great hotel review and happily recommended it to friends traveling there.
awe i so agree, and am still trying to be comfy with letting everyone I know about it ;) and the card is a great idea. xO!
www.thehautecookie.com
I do tell people I blog with confidence, but it took me a long time to get there. Once you build a following and do it long enough, you realize the doors it opens and it's not just a quirky thing you do. I have been embraced by the PR people and GM of hotel's through my travel series and it's a wonderful feeling to know that they take what you do seriously and that your work is appreciated. You are on the right track and you are going places! I love that you want your blog to have a purpose - I feel the same way. Love to give my readers more than just fluff. Great post, Vanisha. xo
Aw I really like this, I've been trying to work on my blog to make it more of a place I can be proud of. It was tough while going through some personal things, something I think that you handle very gracefully and I admire. When I get to a point where I like what my blog has become what I like I'll be doing a sponsor for you, but not until I'm at that point.
Happy Monday, my dear!!
Wonderfuuly said! I really admire your confidence Vanisha, and I find that is something I could learn from you. What else I appreciate about your blog is that is 'you' on a screen and in words, there are no presences, you are always so genuine, thoughtful and true. Loved what you said about being 'purposeful', I can fully testify to that!
This is such a nice blog post!!! I hope I'll be as confident in blogging as you are!! I guess I'll get there:)
http://beatricemalveda.blogspot.com
Wonderfully written!
I still have problems with embracing the title. I did tell friends and family about it, but I do not think that they read it. I hope that one day my confidence will grow a little bit on this. Until then I will be the more quiet blogger still discovering which way to go...
Thank you so much for writing this series on blogging, it absolutely helps me to develop my own blog!
Svenja
Happybluebird
Hi sweets, great post. I agree with you on the confidence part! With anything in life, you've got to get behind what you do, whether big or small and make it about quality. I'm back to blogging after having my baby and I missed it so much! It's part of my creative outlet, happiness and have met beloved friends! xoxo -Taj
I admire your confidence Vanisha and find it inspiring! My family and friends know about my blog but most of them don't 'get it'. And I admit to being shy about it, but I'm going to try and remember this post and wear my blogger title with pride :) x
Oh, I feel weird about telling people that I have a blog. I do not mind if somebody finds me through the internet, but I am unsure about how I feel that some of my colleagues, friends and family know about this. It feels so private somehow, so sharing with strangers seems more anonymous. But I am thinking about embracing my blooger staus more, I have just had some business cards printed... :o)
I don't really tell people I am a blogger. My family knows and some of my friends because they read it. I think having cards for your blog is a great idea. I will look into getting those but I am not sure I would be brave enough to hand them out or leave them anywhere.
kayleigh http://www.thewayiwanderlust.blogspot.com.au
i am really enjoying your series. i've been thinking about doing a business card for my blog. a part from my sister and husband, nobody knows about this blog. i have another blog which i don't mind sharing but this one is for me to let out whatever is bugging me. I don't mind if people find it out but I don't voluntarily shout it out. i love the space and I can still hold my head high if all my family finds out but for now I want to keep it low key.
I am so enjoying this growing your blog series. Some of my family members know that I blog and my close friends know. I am not at the point of introducing myself as a blogger yet. For now blogging is my hobby and I feel that if I put it out there, it might become more of a 'business/job' and I may feel pressured into posting. I know that sounds weird but I like being able to post when I want to. I hope that someday I'll have enough confidence to leave my blog business card behind ;) Thanks for doing these posts, I have been learning alot!
Wow! I think I needed this post. Since creating my new, better blog, I find myself wanting to get my name out there, but being shy about it. When I came into work to tinker on my blog layout, and co-workers asked what I was doing, I was embarrased to tell them. It's a hard thing for me to deal with. I enjoy that I have documented our life, and everyday moments are captured, but at the same time I feel that not many people that know me understand what a blog means. Maybe I need to take the opportunity to explain to them the why of my blog. I really do love this series you created Vanisha! And as always, you are very thought-provoking.
Hello Vanisha,
I just discovered your blog and I'm already a fan of it ;)
I find your "How I grow my blog"'s so interesting and especially this one. I started blogging a few months ago and I'm still really dealing with that sort of shame feeling. I don't dare yet to say to the world I'm blogging, I use a nickname and I always wonder why. It's really inspiring to read your story and how you made you feel confident, step by step. The day I will dare to leave my card on a restaurant, I will definitely think of you :)
Thanks for sharing... (and sorry for my English)
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